The Holiday season is certainly upon us already. And many parents are wondering what types of gifts to get their teens. They're too old for toys and many high-tech gadgets can be expensive.
I've found a lot of teens who aren't even sure what they would like to receive as a gift as well. This can make it especially difficult to find just that perfect gift.
Here are 50 Christmas gift ideas for teens. And remember, to do spend quality time together and do fun activities to remind the family that holidays aren't just about presents. Here's a list of 50 Fun Holiday Activities you can do with your teen as well.
Lots of teens don't really respect their parents opinions. So, if your teen isn't always interested in taking your advice, you're not alone.
Your child needs your guidance throughout the teen years. It's important that your teen have some faith in your ability to provide sound guidance. Otherwise, your opinion won't ever be respected.
There are several ways to build credibility with your teen. When your teen views you as credible, there's a much bigger chance he'll follow your advice and be willing to listen to what you have to say.
Building credibility takes time and effort, but it's well worth it. Learn how to develop credibility with your teen and watch the positive results.
Have you ever stopped to think about the ways your teen solves problems? If you're like most parents, the answer is probably no. Most of us don't spend much time really thinking about the problem-solving process.
Teens don't instinctively know how to solve problems. And most teens aren't ever formally taught how to solve problems in their life. Therefore, it can be very powerful to sit down and teach your teen how to solve problems effectively.
Teens face a lot of problems in their every day life, ranging from little problems to potentially major issues. Not all of them are equipped with the appropriate skills to resolve these issues and sometimes, it can have devastating consequences. Find out how to teach your teen problem-solving skills.
Communicating with your teen can be complex to say the least. Many parents struggle to get through their teen and many teens just don't feel like they're being heard.
Often, families get stuck in unhealthy communication patterns. As long as these patterns continue, they stay stuck. Sometimes, it's important to change things up in order to change those patterns.
Communication is a lot like a dance. Change your steps and it will change how the other person steps as well. If your current communication efforts with your teen aren't working, try something new.
It takes work to break negative communication patterns, but it's worth the effort. Learn how to develop a positive pattern of communication and it can greatly improve your relationship with your child.
Just because you don't understand your teen's reactions or feelings, doesn't mean you can't offer validation. Validating your teen's feelings can be a very powerful tool. It can improve your relationship and greatly improve your communication efforts.
Many teens don't feel like their parents understand them. As a result, they often turn to their peers only when it comes to emotional support. Although it is developmentally normal for teens to turn to friends, it's also important that they feel like they can talk to their parents.
Whether your teen is feeling angry about an incident at school or anxious about something in the future, there are ways in which you can validate your teen's emotions. Learn how to validate your teen's feelings and it can make a big difference in your teen's life.
The number one complaint I hear from teens who enter in my therapy office is that their parents just don't listen to them. Although I think most of their parents try to listen, their teens just don't feel like they're being heard. Reflective listening can change that by ensuring that teens know their parents have heard them.
Reflective listening is a communication tool that is often taught in couples therapy. However, it can also be a very effective way to communicate with your teen.
Reflective listening can be an excellent way to encourage your teen to open up and talk to you about a variety of issues. You can use it when your teen is discussing day-to-day issues or major problems.
Learn how to use reflective listening to communicate with your teen.
Almost every week I have parents bring a teen to see me for therapy because they just can't get their teen to talk to them. They will say things like, "She talks to her friends but won't open up to me," or, "He just stays in his room all the time." Although it's normal for teens to begin to separate from their parents as they gain independence, it doesn't mean you need to be shut out from your child's life completely.
If your teen does talk to you openly and honestly, it takes effort to maintain that healthy relationship throughout adolescence. If your teen isn't talking to you, don't despair. There are several strategies you can use to encourage your child to talk to you.
It's important to stay informed on what's going on in your teen's life. Although your teen doesn't need to tell you every last detail, you should be aware of many of the basics about your teen's life. Try using these 8 strategies to encourage your teen to talk to you.
Sarcasm seems to lose something in translation when parents try to use it with teens. Although parents are usually well-intentioned in trying to make a point, it can be damaging to the relationship.
Most teens don't respond well to sarcasm. Even though you might think it's funny, your teen's feelings may be hurt. There are plenty of more effective ways to make a point to your teen without using sarcasm.
Find out the other reasons why sarcasm doesn't work with teens.
Getting your teen to talk to you may seem like an impossible task on most days. The irony is, many teens can't seem to stop communicating over text or social media, but try to talk to them in person and they seem to have nothing to say.
Sometimes parents try to force their teen to talk, but that can backfire and make a child shut down even more. At other times, parents give up. There certainly is an art form to getting teens to talk openly. When you're talking to your teen, avoid these 10 communication mistakes that can cause teens to shut down even more.
It's quite often that parents come into my therapy office to say that they feel like they've lost their connection with their teen. As your child matures, it's developmentally appropriate to develop some separation from you. However, you can still maintain a healthy relationship as your teen becomes independent.
Take a proactive approach to maintaining a healthy relationship with your child over the years so that you don't drift apart. It takes extra energy during the teen years, but it's well worth it. Here are some of the reasons why it's important to maintain a healthy relationship with your teen.