One mom seeks advice: "My 14 yr dd is not allowed to date and we strongly encourage her not to even have bf at school because they can not see each outside of school. The other day we were somewhere and I noticed something on her neck. Of course she tried to deny it, but it did not work. She finally told me she had a bf at school. This is a boy we have very little respect for because we know he is not a trustworthy guy. She received the mark on her neck at school during lunch. I was extremely disappointed with her and hurt and let her know, especially since I asked her if she still associates with this boy and she said very little. My question is, how do I handle this? If her Dad seen this he would probably punish her for life."
Deniseís thoughts: I think there are several issues to look at here. Dating being one - the hicky being another. I believe being grounded for a week including early bedtime might deter another hicky as she won't want to have to deal with that again.
As for the dating at school, I'd let it run its course as long as it is only there. Talk to her about getting in trouble at school. I would also let her know that you don't feel this boy is worth her time, but these are her choices. Plan a busy summer...
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