A mom asks for opinions: "One of my daughters, who is 16, wants to get Facebook. I took a look at the site, and it doesn't seem safe to me at all. She says she will set the maximum privacy settings to her account, but I don't know about this.
The fact that you can type someone's name into the search box and it will find them is kind of creepy. As you are probably already aware, most kids on the site put their first and last names. If they've entered what school they go to, you can see that information as well as what city they live in, and the year they will graduate. Also, their photo is shown. You can see all this even if the profile is set to private and you can't see their actual page.
I find this very disturbing... are kids forgetting that once you put information on the internet, it's there for ever? Or do you think I'm just overreacting? I mean, just because "everyone is doing it" doesn't mean it's safe.
PS- Yes, we can see what our daughter is doing online, we have a filtering service which has a history that cannot be cleared. So I would know if she signed up for Facebook without my knowledge."
Denise's thoughts: I would let her try with the stipulation that you can take a look at what is happening at any time and you have her password. With your filtering software and checking up, I wouldn't worry.
It seems at Facebook.com only friends she has allowed and people in networks she has joined(her high school is a network) can see her. From there she can still block anyone. That seems pretty safe together with what you are doing at home. Updated: Yes, you can see city and high school if she has joined those networks. The high school network would be fine with me, but the city one is really not necessary as she can add friends individually that are not in her school.
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