A mom on the forum looking for support:
I just got a call from my 12-year-old daughter's friend's mom. It seems that she stole her friends older sister's iPod when she slept over 2 weeks ago. Then it came out that last week she stole the same friend's hair straightener! When I confronted her about it she said that her friend said she could borrow it and that she only took the iPod to download some music off of it. Both have been returned. But through much ado I got what I think is the truth and that is that she's a thief. You have to understand that I have a 21-year-old son and a 17-year-old daughter. The 21-year-old is a perpetual liar and has given us nothing but grief for many years. My 17-year-old has seen the way my son has treated us and has sworn to not lie, no matter the consequences. She realized the hurt it was causing. I'm afraid that my 12-year-old has seen his behavior as an example to follow. She didn't seem to feel any regret at all for embarrassing me and trashing her own reputation. She really didn't respond until I took away her privileges, including her own hair straightener. Then she got verbally abusive and nasty. She doesn't seem to care that she has ruined a good friendship. At least one. Nobody will trust or believe her anymore. She's actually angry at her friend's mom who felt horrible about calling me. I have the name of a teen counselor and have left a message to set up an appointment. This is breaking my heart. I don't know how I can go through this again with another child. My oldest and I barely speak, I've been seeing a counselor because of my issues with him and now boom here it comes again!
Denise's thoughts: I think you are doing what you can by getting her some help. I do feel you'll need to step up teaching her some more respect for authority and to not be verbally abusive. Hang in there.
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