A mom on the forum asks for advice: "My sweet, endearing 15 year old son has become a mouthy, know it all, brat! I have noticed the change since baseball season has started. Last night his teacher called expressing the same concerns. His school work is slipping and he is mouthing off in class. We both think it is the friends he is hanging around and he is trying to fit in, My question is how do you tell him you think he needs to find new friends without making things worse? FYI....He has a low self esteem issue and has always worried about his weight, so I need to tread lightly, I think?"
Denise's thoughts: I agree with NYDad, free time should be curtailed until he can bring his grades back up. I would also check in with his teachers via email weekly.
I'm not sure I would tread too lightly, but be honest and talk with him saying things like, "I understand that having your friends are important to you and because it is important to you, it is important to me. I love you. But in our family, we do not believe in the use of drugs and we strive to do well in our endeavors(school). I'm expecting for you to hold up your end of things. What do you think?" and then listen.
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