A parent asks on the forum: "I'd like to take away my teens IPod as a consequence for bad behavior but she paid for it with her own money. How can I rationalize this to her?"
Denise's thoughts: "In the interest of fairness, if you have no other options, limiting the use of the IPod is something you can do. But, you should set that up beforehand in an action plan or parenting contract because the IPod is something that is causing the behavior you are giving a consequence about. For instance, if your teen is failing or receiving low grades on tests because she sits around with her IPod all day, then set it up that if she doesn't get a certain grade or higher on the next test, you are going to take the IPod for so many days and it is because she is choosing to do that over studying.
Or if she is using it for things she shouldn't be doing. Like if she is using the IPod to download things she shouldn't have, then you have every reason and a responsibility to take it. Doesn't matter who it belongs to. It is the only way to stop an activity she should not be doing. Then let her build back trust with you over the time that you have it.
Otherwise, find something else to make the discipline easier on you.
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I belief she should be denied the ipod for some time because it is the cause of the problem. when I experienced a similar problem with my sons phone, I took it for a weekend. he compalined because I had not warned him before hand but he realised that he could not keep his phone and misbehave at the same time. So I feel she should be made aware that if things do not improve then she will have no access to her ipod and should be followed through because if it turns out to be an empty threat then things will not improve.
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That is one thing I do to both of my children for bad behavior or grades. My son will sit with it for hours at night when he should be going to bed or doing his homework. It is one thing I have left that really gets to them for punishment. They have become so dependent on them taking them to school. They can load all kinds of games and apps that keep them mesmorized for hours especially my son.
It sounds like you’re concerned because she owns the ipod – but here’s how you justify it. You aren’t taking away the ipod – she still owns it – what you are taking away is her time with it. And since she’s a minor, you do actually own her time!
This is the new way to ground a kid. So many of them are linked online that grounding is no longer a punishment. But taking away their communication time – that is.
I have a 16 year old boy and a 17 year old girl. Turning the internet off on the computer they use or taking away their cell phones are consequences that they hate. They think I’m mean, but I don’t really care…I’m their mom and its my job to keep them in line. (and yes, I have a good relationship with both of them…and they don’t choose to cross me very often)
Do you what kind of music she is listening to on her Ipod?
Some music is telling to girls to of F— the boys. Take the gun and shoot him..I mean the gang rap is sick and the girls who do the viedo have to have their legs spread open in order to get an award. Its awful and should not be listen to.
being a teen ager, ipod is an importan gadget for us, i can’t imagine my world witjout ipod but if that so called ipod becomes your world or your teen ager’s world then beter take it away before it makes you or your daughter/son go crazy..
Listen to yourselves. You speak and type more horribly than monkeys. It’s an iPod, not some of your alternative capitalized words.
Well, anyway, although I go against some rap, what you consider taboo doesn’t matter. It’s not your life, so why mold it like it’s yours? Everybody is different and it’s best to keep it that way.
The F word is just a word like any other. Why is it considered offensive? I am really itching to know.
I loved the iPad so much, I taught myself how to develop apps for them! The first one was to help track my daughter’s chore allowance. Check out iChores for the iPad.
I have taken things from my son several times, mostly his phone, his so called “reason for living” it will work for about a week, then I’m back to taking something else. I wonder if I will ever get out of this with him. I wish he would make the right choices and stop following other children who are not positive influences.
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