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Her daughter's period is irregular, is that normal?

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Having an irregular period during puberty is normal and something that parents shouldn't be too concerned about if their daughter is not showing any other signs of health problems - headaches, pain, etc. Menstruation can start and stop for many reasons, one of them being the start of puberty and growth spurts. Below a mom asks our parenting community about her daughter's irregular period and what she can do to help her teen.

The Question from Janet:

"I have a daughter in her teens - she has just started her menstrual cycle for the first time and it lasted for about 2 weeks which is rather unusual but I "brushed it" off as it being the first time. Then the cycle has started again and is very heavy. Can you explain this or should I take her to a doctor?"

Denise's thoughts:

When girls first start their period, a lot of unusual things can happen, like getting her period every other week, not getting her period for 2 months or getting her period for a longer time. This is a normal part of puberty, the cycle is getting ready to become just that, a cycle and it can take up to a year to be a steady cycle, for some woman it never does. She may just be a girl who is going to have a heavy period to deal with, which is something she will have to talk to her daughter about. As she gets older there are options she can take to control it, like oral contraceptives.

If she is showing no other signs, like being extremely lethargic, getting sick to her stomach and such, I would just keep an eye on her, although calling your doctor to get an opinion is always a good idea. You may want to talk to some of the women on her father's side of the family to see if this is normal for them. That way you will be able to determine if this is the way it is going to be with her, or if its something she may grow out of.

It is also important to write everything down as it happens simply because you just don't know if this will become a health problem. If it does, she will have all of the symptoms and information written down and accurate. I suggest using a private calendar or journal for this task that is easy to get to.

The Answers from the Parenting of Adolescents Forum:

Just wait until you start to go through menopause and those same weird cycles come back! I agree with Denise and also want to suggest diet and exercise before the extreme situation of medication. Periods are different for everyone but make sure your daughter has a good diet in general, doesn't smoke and gets some sort of daily exercise. I have helped some teenage girls by encouraging them to take a dance class, walk for 45 minutes a day or play a sport. The ones who sit in front of the television eating chips are going to have more trouble with their periods as well as zits! Good luck, - DBJ

I had the same problem with my older one, and it lasted about 6 months. I did call the doctor and he said to watch it, that is all you can do. Of course with this she had some nasty cramps-- i felt really bad for her. It's so hard to watch that happen in your daughter and feel powerless. - twogirls

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