This is why it can be so important for us to keep the lines of communication open. Here are some helpful tips to try:

Know what you're talking about!
Times change, as have birth control methods and unfortunately with the outbreak of AIDS, so have STDs. Learn what is out there today by doing your homework. You can start in my Net Links page on Teen Health.

Start Early.
It is not too soon to be talking to your 10 and 11 year old about sex. As a matter of fact, schools are starting at this age. The statistics show that some teens know much more at age 14 and many have engaged in sexual intercourse by this time. So share your values, your views on love and relationships, etc, before they get to this point.

TALK! TALK! TALK!
Don't stop. In order to get through the embarrassment you or your teen my be having over the topic, bring it up often in general conversation. Ask their opinion when you see something on TV or in the newspapers.

Listen.
Conversation is a two way street. Don't be to quick to jump on their opinions even when they are seeing black where you see white. Remember they are learning how to form opinions and then testing them out on you. Nothing for them is cemented in stone.