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Your Defiant Teen: 10 Steps to Resolve Conflict and Rebuild Your Relationship

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Your Defiant Teen
©The Guilford Press

The Bottom Line

Your Defiant Teen: 10 Steps to Resolve Conflict and Rebuild Your Relationship by Russell A. Barkley PhD ABPP ABCN and Arthur L. Robin PhD is a practical book with common sense ideas that are easy to read and understand how to use with your struggling teen. If you feel like you're at your wits' end and don't know where to turn, try this book.

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  • An easy read.
  • Practical approach with easy to follow guidance.
  • Offers empowering parenting tools.
  • Has digital editions.


  • Does not cover what to do if their appraoch doesn't work enough.


  • The first five chapters are learning about defiance and getting ready to start a new approach.
  • Much of what you'll read you have heard before, but this is now in an order that you can understand how to use it.
  • Problem solving worksheets given with samples of parents filling them out.
  • You will be able to use this book as an on-going resource.

Guide Review - Your Defiant Teen: 10 Steps to Resolve Conflict and Rebuild Your Relationship

Book Description: "When your teen's rebellious behavior "crosses the line," how can you reestablish your authority without getting caught in a power struggle? Bestselling authors and distinguished psychologists Russell Barkley and Arthur Robin have each spent decades helping parents and kids resolve standoffs and repair their relationships. Now they've distilled their approach into a clinically proven self-help program that can help you break through to your teen and rebuild trust. Centered around 10 simple steps that lead to better behavior, Your Defiant Teen provides practical guidelines for putting an end to the hostilities. You'll learn realistic ways to foster mutual respect, introduce cooperative problem solving, and strengthen family relationships--while giving your teen vital skills for becoming a mature, independent adult."

Denise's thoughts: "The authors rightly point out that change starts with the parent without insulting or making parents feel guilty. I found some of the worksheets to be involved for the average parent, as not everyone is a student for life and used to filling out forms such as these. But as learning tools, the worksheets looked to be quite useful. All in all, I really liked the book and recommend it to parents of teens who are struggling."

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