Being out at night with friends is important to a teen who is working on his identity and his social life. But, there has to be a time when he needs to come home. What is that time in your home? Is it different for school nights and weekends? Share how you handle curfews
in your home.
- My husband and I have 2 middle school children who have to be in on school nights at 6:30 and 9:00 on weekends - and our 3 high school children 16-17 have to be in at 6:30 on school nights and 10:30 on weekends.
- —Guest Lena
- I have two daughters. One is twenty years of age and the other seventeen. I'm really struggling with both. The twenty year old goes out every weekend and almost always stays at a friends house to spend the night. Weekdays the both come home at midnite. I'm very stressed.
- —Guest Nancy
- My son is 15-years-old and I say 9 p.m. on school nights and either 10 p.m. or 11 p.m. on the weekends depending what he is doing... if it's a movie that ends at a given time like 11:15 then that's okay because I know where he is and I'm likely going to be picking him up as we have no public transit.
- —Guest Mama Cat
15-Year-Old Girl Curfew
- My daughter has a 8:00 pm curfew on school nights and 9:30 pm. I expect her to be home 15 minutes before her curfew however she may arrive on time. If she is late, she will not be allowed to go out for the rest of the week.
- —Guest sandra
Curfew for 17 year old.
- My daughter is 17 and going to be a senior in high school. She works also. Her school night curfew is 10:30 to 11 depending on what is going on the next day. Weekends she can stay out until midnight because that is the legal driving curfew for anyone under 18 here. If her grades slip or if she is more than 15 minutes late for curfew (and hasn't contacted us) we take her license for three days.
- —Guest Gigi
Curfew time for teens
- My eldest daughter is 14 and she has a curfew of 6pm at the weekends. She doesn't have a curfew on school nights because she has to come home and do here homework or chores. She invites friends round all the time which is great with my wife and i because we get to know the friends and then their parents(which is a must by the way) We have started to allow some later curfew times at the weekends mainly for birthday parties. I must state that they are not real birthday parties these are celebrations in nando's and bowling etc. She is then allowed to come home around 8pm for those. I am not sure how a child under the age of 16 can have a school night curfew of up to 9pm?? That's a bit strange to me, yes might daughter complains about her 6pm time and i just think to myself so?? I'm the parent your the child and this is what you do, simple. She has all the mod coms, ipod, computer, etc. So i say to her just be happy you got that and stop complaining or you will get no free time.
- —Guest Kenny
Seventeen: Homecoming Parties
- It depends of the each child and their age. They have so much to study and so many school activities that is practically impossible to allow them to go out during school days. For our child who is seventeen during weekends we allow her to stay at their friends homes until 11:30. For special parties homecoming or turn about school parties 1 is the latest.
- —Guest BD
- I have a son, 16 this month. Currently his curfew is 630 PM school nights, except on Sundays, which are 7 PM. Weekends are 10 PM. He'll call sometimes, an hour or two early, to ask to stay at his girlfriend's house later to watch a movie (last night he came home at 10:45). Communication is the most important factor. I am surprised at reading such late school night curfew's, as school work needs to be done, as well as getting sleep. I could understand a later school night curfew if he came home, did his homework, had dinner early, then went back out. Nonetheless, I will probably never make his curfew any later than 7 PM on a school night, unless there is an exception, like a concert he wants to go to. I'm thinking in the summer I will increase his weekend curfew (and thus weeknight for the summer) to 1030 or 11 PM. Then for senior year, 1130 or midnight. That's my master plan!
- —Guest jmtk
Setting Curfew By Alotting Hours
- My son doesn’t play sports or participate in anything that takes up his free time outside of working 20-25 hours a week and school. Sunday through Thursday, the curfew is as follows: He as 12 hours to distribute throughout the week however he wants. He can only be away from the house 6 hours at most, unless he has a special activity schedules which might exceeded 6 hours. Or he can go out break up his time more. We’re doing this because we want to make sure he has time during the school week to do homework, chores, and practice his guitar.
Friday and Saturday he gets another 12 hours to split up however he wants. The 6 hour rule still is in place.
- —Guest What is a fair curfew for a 17 year old?
Everyone Should Follow the Rules
- I've got four children ages 20 to 2 1/2 years-old. We have set curfews and limits based on them as individuals.. My oldest son rarely went out so this was not an issue... not so for my 15 year old daughter. She has to be in by 10pm on school nights and 11:30 on weekends unless there is a special event or she contacts us and we discuss it. I want to keep the lines of communication open and she can share in the decision making process as it's she who will be making her own decisions in the years to come. Rules are great, but if you lay them down you must follow them!
- —Guest Sus
Older Teen with Other Responsibilities
- I have a 17 year old daughter. She's basically all grown up now. Because of a choice she's made she has to stay in and take care of her responsibilities, but we've come to terms that with hard work comes reward. When she wants to hang out or ditch her "mommy duties' for the night, her curfew is eleven thirty if she has someone to watch my grandson, which most likely be my other daughter or the father of my grandson. She really doesn't go out much since she's had him, but we touched on this subject and we've agreed on it.
- —Guest JOHNNAE
I have a 17 year old with a son
- She's basically all grown up now. Because of a choice she's made she has to stay in and take care of her responsiblities, but we've come to terms that with hard work comes reward. When she wants to hang out or ditch her "mommy duties' for the night, her curfew is eleven thirty if she has someone to watch my grandson, which most likey be my other daughter or the father of my grandson. She really doesn't go out much since she's had him, but we touched on this subject and we've agreed on it.
- —Guest Janice
Curfew for My 16-year-old Son
- My son has a curfew of 10:30 on school nights and 12:30 on weekends. I encourage him to invite his friends over for entertaining. This has worked out very well and I get to meet all of his friends.
- —Guest garciagreer
- I do not believe that it is the government's place to create evening curfews on teens activity, instead I think it is the parent's responsibility to set curfews as they think appropriate and fair for each of their children. Some have argued that if this is true than the government shouldn't create speed limits either; I respond, if the government owns it then they can make whatever law they want, but the government does not own teenagers and therefore have no constitutional right to set such teen curfews in place.
- —Guest josh
Home to Get Things Done
- I have a 16-year-old. During the week she is to be home by 8:30 because she's always whining she has so much to do before bed: shower, eat, homework, tv, etc. This gives her time to get things done. I won't allow her home late and up all nite to do her stuff. Weekends: 10-11 not sure yet as I just started this rule.
- —Guest fedupparent