Being out at night with friends is important to a teen who is working on his identity and his social life. But, there has to be a time when he needs to come home. What is that time in your home? Is it different for school nights and weekends? Share how you handle curfews
in your home.
Curfew time for teens
- My eldest daughter is 14 and she has a curfew of 6pm at the weekends. She doesn't have a curfew on school nights because she has to come home and do here homework or chores. She invites friends round all the time which is great with my wife and i because we get to know the friends and then their parents(which is a must by the way) We have started to allow some later curfew times at the weekends mainly for birthday parties. I must state that they are not real birthday parties these are celebrations in nando's and bowling etc. She is then allowed to come home around 8pm for those. I am not sure how a child under the age of 16 can have a school night curfew of up to 9pm?? That's a bit strange to me, yes might daughter complains about her 6pm time and i just think to myself so?? I'm the parent your the child and this is what you do, simple. She has all the mod coms, ipod, computer, etc. So i say to her just be happy you got that and stop complaining or you will get no free time.
- —Guest Kenny
Seventeen: Homecoming Parties
- It depends of the each child and their age. They have so much to study and so many school activities that is practically impossible to allow them to go out during school days. For our child who is seventeen during weekends we allow her to stay at their friends homes until 11:30. For special parties homecoming or turn about school parties 1 is the latest.
- —Guest BD
- I have a son, 16 this month. Currently his curfew is 630 PM school nights, except on Sundays, which are 7 PM. Weekends are 10 PM. He'll call sometimes, an hour or two early, to ask to stay at his girlfriend's house later to watch a movie (last night he came home at 10:45). Communication is the most important factor. I am surprised at reading such late school night curfew's, as school work needs to be done, as well as getting sleep. I could understand a later school night curfew if he came home, did his homework, had dinner early, then went back out. Nonetheless, I will probably never make his curfew any later than 7 PM on a school night, unless there is an exception, like a concert he wants to go to. I'm thinking in the summer I will increase his weekend curfew (and thus weeknight for the summer) to 1030 or 11 PM. Then for senior year, 1130 or midnight. That's my master plan!
- —Guest jmtk
Setting Curfew By Alotting Hours
- My son doesn’t play sports or participate in anything that takes up his free time outside of working 20-25 hours a week and school. Sunday through Thursday, the curfew is as follows: He as 12 hours to distribute throughout the week however he wants. He can only be away from the house 6 hours at most, unless he has a special activity schedules which might exceeded 6 hours. Or he can go out break up his time more. We’re doing this because we want to make sure he has time during the school week to do homework, chores, and practice his guitar.
Friday and Saturday he gets another 12 hours to split up however he wants. The 6 hour rule still is in place.
- —Guest What is a fair curfew for a 17 year old?
Everyone Should Follow the Rules
- I've got four children ages 20 to 2 1/2 years-old. We have set curfews and limits based on them as individuals.. My oldest son rarely went out so this was not an issue... not so for my 15 year old daughter. She has to be in by 10pm on school nights and 11:30 on weekends unless there is a special event or she contacts us and we discuss it. I want to keep the lines of communication open and she can share in the decision making process as it's she who will be making her own decisions in the years to come. Rules are great, but if you lay them down you must follow them!
- —Guest Sus
Older Teen with Other Responsibilities
- I have a 17 year old daughter. She's basically all grown up now. Because of a choice she's made she has to stay in and take care of her responsibilities, but we've come to terms that with hard work comes reward. When she wants to hang out or ditch her "mommy duties' for the night, her curfew is eleven thirty if she has someone to watch my grandson, which most likely be my other daughter or the father of my grandson. She really doesn't go out much since she's had him, but we touched on this subject and we've agreed on it.
- —Guest JOHNNAE
I have a 17 year old with a son
- She's basically all grown up now. Because of a choice she's made she has to stay in and take care of her responsiblities, but we've come to terms that with hard work comes reward. When she wants to hang out or ditch her "mommy duties' for the night, her curfew is eleven thirty if she has someone to watch my grandson, which most likey be my other daughter or the father of my grandson. She really doesn't go out much since she's had him, but we touched on this subject and we've agreed on it.
- —Guest Janice
Curfew for My 16-year-old Son
- My son has a curfew of 10:30 on school nights and 12:30 on weekends. I encourage him to invite his friends over for entertaining. This has worked out very well and I get to meet all of his friends.
- —Guest garciagreer
- I do not believe that it is the government's place to create evening curfews on teens activity, instead I think it is the parent's responsibility to set curfews as they think appropriate and fair for each of their children. Some have argued that if this is true than the government shouldn't create speed limits either; I respond, if the government owns it then they can make whatever law they want, but the government does not own teenagers and therefore have no constitutional right to set such teen curfews in place.
- —Guest josh
Home to Get Things Done
- I have a 16-year-old. During the week she is to be home by 8:30 because she's always whining she has so much to do before bed: shower, eat, homework, tv, etc. This gives her time to get things done. I won't allow her home late and up all nite to do her stuff. Weekends: 10-11 not sure yet as I just started this rule.
- —Guest fedupparent
Shes 15, she needs a curfew.
- Well, my daughters curfew is 10 pm on school nights and 11 on weekends. She sometimes misses curfew by about 10 mintues so I tell her she needs to come inside the next night at her middle school curfew, which was 9:00 pm.
- —Guest Marina
The Five Equals Ten Rule
- We've been using this rule since my son started driving and it's worked fairly well because the consequences get geometrically tougher after each infraction. The basic premise is that he has to be in by midnight (as required by driver's license). He has a five minute grace period, but after that, for every five minutes he is late, he has to come in ten minutes earlier the next night. Basically double the time he was late. So if he's a half hour late, he comes in an hour earlier the next night. If the next night. When he's supposed to be in an hour earlier, he's late, he doesn't drive the car the next day. It hasn't happened often, so it must be somewhat effective!
- —Guest Essy
Out with Friends
- My 15-year-old daughter has a group of friends that she goes out with. My husband have made a curfew we think is great for her. We made it for 10:30 on school nights and 11:00 on weekends. So she behaving and following the curfew.
- —Guest Lashawna
Curfew for 17-Year-Old
- My husband and I have established a pretty flexible curfew for our son. He's 17 and has a drivers license and his own car. Because of his age, he is not allowed to drive past midnight but during the school week, he has to be in the house by 9pm. He can stay out until 10:30pm on the weekends with friends. We are very protective of him because he is a young driver and the accident rate for teenagers is quite high. I'm sure he would love to stay out longer, but in our opinion, it's safer this way. We has parents have to have guidelines set for our children and it must start before they are teenagers. :-)
Curfew for 14-Year-Old
- I don't actually have a curfew for my son because it seems to work better if we let his friends come here to hang out. Their parents know where they are and they're all safe. He does like to go out in the summer months but so far we've not had a problem with him as he knows to come back before dark. He doesn't really stray too far from home. We've spent a great deal of his life explaining that we care about his welfare and that if we tell him to be home at a certain time he must contact us if he's not going to make it. He's only missed curfew once and we had a conversation about the dangers outside and how we worry and he's never done it again. I think, in at least that respect of his life, we're very lucky.
- —Guest Heather
- My town makes it easy on parents. By law, driving curfew is 10 PM weeknights and 11 PM on weekends.
- —Guest Mary
Making it Flexible For Driving Teens
- School nights it's 9 or 10 depending on what we have scheduled for the next day (it would be earlier if in public school but we homeschool and have more flexible hours -- i.e. momma/teacher likes to sleep past 9am). Weekends it's 11pm to midnight. Because all three have new driver's license with a 12am restriction that's the latest they are allowed out in their own cars. For some special thing (big concert, chaperoned party, for example) I might allow later as long as they aren't driving.
(Don't tell my kids, but I never had a curfew as a teen.)
- —Guest jacci