From the article: I don’t like my teen’s friends. What do I do?
Different parents have different tolerance levels that can sometimes be a problem when your teen is hanging out with a friend and their family, but you don't agree with the rules set by those parents. How do you feel about allowing your teen to visit this friend? How have you handled this problem in the past? Do you not let your teen visit their friend? Do you try and ask the friend over to your home more often? Please share your opinions, advice and experiences. Share Your Advice
Our Rules Plus Their Rules
- I advise that in all visits to other homes, from preschool - adolescence, there is an "our rules plus their rules" expectation. Using your focus on teens, I submit the following example; if you cannot consume alcohol at our house, you cannot consume alcohol at their house, even if those parents allow it. If you can't maintain the expectations of our family in that setting, you can't visit their home. However, your friend is welcome to visit here. The issue is not with the friend or their family rules; different families do things differently. The issue is with the child who hasn't matured enough to uphold the expectations of their own family when faced with temptation and permission. Limits need to apply until the child develops that maturation.
- —cjgatzke
Family Rules
- I will talk friendly with my teens and explain to them possible effects of the news rules from the other family. Advise my teens to observe their rules.
- —Guest Bertha
