One mom wonders:
"I have a 13 year old son who has Juvinille Diabetes. he has been passed around to so many different schools throughout his life. The schools in our county really have a problem with dealing with kids with small diabilities such as diabetes and cystic fibrosis and such. We have had issue after issue with them. I have done the best I can in trying to keep his grades up but he always ends up skimming by. He is a really bright kid but it is hard for him to concentrate when he has high and low blood sugars so he is a little behind everyone else all the time. Well this last nine weeks of school I offered him money for good grades and constantly reminded him of it throught the nine weeks. I used to get money for good grades mostly from my grandparents but also from my parents. I offered my son $100 for an A in any academic class and $25 for a B. Well this last nine weeks report card he made an A in intensive reading and a B in Math and Science. The rest were C's except one F in Gym, he never dresses out because his insulin pump shows when he has on his gym clothes and it embarrasses him so i let him get away with it as long as he passes the school year all together. Anyhow, when my mother in law heard that I was giving him money for his report card she had some things to say about it. She says I should never do that and it teaches them improper values and such. I don't quite understand what she means because don't you get promoted and raises depending on how hard you work. Isn't that real life? I guess I am just looking for someone to back me up because my husband, although he has yet to mention it, will surely take her side he always does. I never argue with her, the woman is really a Saint. I just need the peace of mind that I am not the horrible mother that she makes me feel like I am whenever issues like this come up. Thanks in advance for any advice."
Denise's thoughts: "I give money for grades on my girls report cards. It's a personal choice, but I do and so does their grandfather. It also helps me teach saving and basic spending habits. Middle child wanted a t-shirt for a school event today, I ask her how much money she had left from the last report card and she said, 'oh, yeah!' remembering that she had her own money and could use it. I think you are doing an excellent job. I'm diabetic, it is hard to work with highs and lows. You are being empathetic and creating a goal for him at the same time... not an easy task, mom. Way to go and keep it up!
I would talk to him about dressing for gym. Facing our fears is an important life lesson that he will benefit from learning young as he will have that pump for a lifetime. Maybe role play some ideas with him. "
Asking our community: Have you paid for grades with money or some other type of reward? Do you think parents should set something up with their teens, or not? Post on the forum or leave a comment here.