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Teen Son and Friend Smoking Pot, What Should This Parent Do?

By March 19, 2009

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Katz asks: "My son is friends with a boy who I think is a good kid but might be using marijuana. He is my son's best friend. What do I do?" You can read my answer here.

Asking our parenting community: What is the first thing you would do? Would you talk to the boys? Would you talk to the friend's parents? Have you had this experience? Share your thoughts, advice and opinions in the comments area.

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March 19, 2009 at 4:15 am
(1) joe says:

I have two kids. I would rather they smoke pot than get drunk when they get older. It would be safer for them and those around them. Stop the Refer Madness. Watch the movie and see if we have been lied to about how bad cannabis is. It is safer than alchohol.

March 19, 2009 at 8:04 am
(2) Aliza says:

I’m curious about the message you are sending your kids that it’s okay to break the law – whether it’s by smoking pot or underage drinking. You may think it’s safer – and I’m not disagreeing with you – but the fact remains that it’s against the law. And it’s a foreign substance that you are ingesting in your body.
So, instead of finding “natural highs” like being good at something or a hobby – you’d suggest your kids get high?

September 22, 2010 at 2:01 pm
(3) Charles says:

HELL YA I WANT MY KIDS TO GET HIGH!

March 14, 2011 at 9:39 am
(4) Josh says:

The fact that you think that someone can’t smoke pot and do something kind/productive in the same day shows us you’re complete lack of knowledge about Cannabis. And you put a foreign substance into your body every time you take Tylenol.

March 19, 2009 at 9:18 am
(5) Trisha says:

I don’t think the commentor was saying he would suggest his kids get high, he is just stating that in retrospect to alcohol it is the better choice. Anything from soda to medicine is a foriegn object to the body so that is not an argument and the only reason this is not a legal substance is because it can’t be controlled by the government and they would lose millions of dollars from fines. It is a safer substance than tobacco and that is legal. But to answer this parents question of what she should do about her child. She should express her concerns and values to her son and only her son. Let him know that what she feels about the using and what she expects out of her child. If his friend is a good kid and not getting her son into any trouble, they need to set guidelines together. The parent should also ask themselves the question of what they would think or do if his friend was a tobacco user, which is also illegal at this age. If the answer is, nothing, than that is what she should do in this situation. If she feels that no illegal act in the presence of her son what so ever should be seen than she should lock him in his room with no tv and no friends, and absolutly no public school. The truth is they see more and commit more illegal acts such as smoking than we as parents can even imagine and it is the parents job only to teach our kids how to make good choices for themselves.

March 19, 2009 at 11:14 am
(6) fanny says:

While I personally could care less about pot smoking. I personally would argue to legalize. At this time marijuana is ILLEGAL and that is how I would broach the subject. Also since its illegal you never know what else is in it.

On the other hand you have to keep in mind that kids are taking legal drugs to get high. So when you do send the message make sure that your son understands that too (I lost a freind to a pain killer addiction, I know what it does to people).

The message I sent my daughter when she was young and even now is a simple one, “if someone says this will make you feel good, its not good for you”. I also avoid talking in the long term, I try to apply the ill effects to her everyday life. She is a dancer which makes it easier. So smoking, no matter what it is will make it harder to breath when dancing. I even use specific examples. Teens think in the “NOW” not in the possible or what it might do 20 years from now. I like the new commercial about how they ditched their friends cause they were high, they gave up what they love cause they were high, the here and now is what is going to get a kid to stay away.

With drinking underage or at age, I point out that moderation is important, what a hangover feels like (in detail with the dry heaves and all), how easy it is to get a hangover. I also point out how stupid people look when they are drunk, how they do things they regret. Remind your teen that getting high might seem like fun, but there are real mistakes he might make while high, not about getting caught, about losing friends, about messing up his chances with the cute girl, etc… I also told my daughter that although there are many who think its OK what she needs to do is learn how bad drugs are from the past generations, Jimi Hendrix, Jim Morrison, Bon Scott, etc… or point out the present day examples that didn’t learn.

March 19, 2009 at 2:21 pm
(7) Stan says:

After 15 years of working in a corrections setting and a couple of years in the juvenile court, I have seen first hand the negative results of both marijuana and alcohol. There has been a lot of reseach done that shows the physical damage that pot has on brain cells. Pot is even more damaging to young people because there brain are still developing. There are other physical effects on the body. Why is there such a market for viaggra today? Because of the long term effect of smoking pot.

March 20, 2009 at 8:25 am
(8) Terri Stephen says:

Take it from a mother who just three days ago checked her 17 year old son out of a rehab facility. POT IS NOT OK. He thought it was just fine until a “friend” laced it with crack. You want problems, this is a direct route. If you think your kid is smoking pot, go to the local court house and get a Marchman Act. The police will come, pick up the “child” and take him in for a drug test. If he/she is positive, they will have to get treatment…which is not fun. You are the parent, get tough or the streets will win..you don’t want that. Trust me.

March 20, 2009 at 9:14 am
(9) Elli says:

I appreciate everyone’s thoughts, though I noticed so many shared their political and health opinions, but not their proposed actions, as regards the child, in this situation.

I can share my experience as this same situation happened to me and my high schooler a few months ago.

The child who was smoking pot is a very close friend of my daughters, and had offered it to her. I concentrated my focus on my child, not the other child. I spoke at length to her, and we went together to a counselor that deals with drug abuse. Though we (and the counselor ) were quite certain that my daughter was not abusing (or even trying) pot, we used the situation as a teachable moment.. we had her read and comment on several studies of marijuana use, its affect on teenagers, health, etc. I role played with her after the therapy sessions, encouraging her to come up with at least three ways to politely decline substances (though Im not so naive as to believe she will turn down each and every offer of alcohol or drugs in her life, I wanted to provide her with the framework and knowledge of how one delicately declines things .. I know I often have to decline certain foods or alcohol at social events .. I figured it was usable, practical knowledge for her )

We also encouraged her to be the ‘one in the know’ amongst her friends and to relay her knowledge about pot and its potential detrimental effects amongst her peer group, not to be the ‘police’ or a ‘narc,’ but to simply offer other opinions on what pot might do.

I dont know if or how much she used our role playing and teaching session, but I do know that the child who was trying pot must have eventually had the information relayed to him. His parents told me that he had brought it up in conversation a few months later (using an ‘anonymous friend’ as the person who was experimenting) His parents said it lead to a very lively discussion on pot and drugs in general.

I never did let them know that it was their son that was the trigger for the whole thing.

March 20, 2009 at 9:28 am
(10) Cassie says:

Being a teenager I go to the uncool factor of having to talk to councilors or having parents think things of you that may or may not be true. However having raised my younger teen siblings, I would raise hell and probably drag them down to the cop shop and make them confess and be mortally embarrassed into not doing pot. Drugs is one thing, but I don’t have anything against moderate alcohol drinking.

March 20, 2009 at 10:44 am
(11) alice says:

I am a single mom raising 3 boys – well 1 is already raised, 2 others are teens. My advise is to talk to your son. Hopefully you have an honest, open relationship – if not, it’s not to late to develop one. So talk to your son. And afterwards, as far as his friend goes, if it’s his best friend then probably know him well enough to talk to him to. I wouldn’t go to his parents first cuz that could damage your relationship with him (you shld have somewhat of a relationship w/ur sons best friend). And depending on your relationship with his parents (again, shld have somewhat of a relationship w/his parents) they could be offended – if you don’t know them well enough. if you do know them well enough, depending on what the boys tell you – talk to them afterwards. Thats my adivse

April 11, 2009 at 12:54 pm
(12) Pamela says:

I just went thought sending my daughter to a 9 mouth rehab/school, and it’s no fun. She was in jail 2 weeks before going to the rehab. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. All because I was in denial that she was just having fun and hanging out with her peers (past so called friends). Please show “toughlove” and pay attention and get involved in your kids life!

May 30, 2009 at 8:51 pm
(13) blazeit says:

i smoke weed every day and i’m not going to stop, no matter what i get put through by my “mom.” if there’s one thing parents don’t understand about their teens smoking weed, it’s that they have a relationship with it. i guess i could say “you just don’t understand.” but the sooner you all give this fight up, the better off we will all be. my opinion probably has no value to you, but it is fact and i experience it first hand every day. and no one is going to stop because their parents tell them to, it is reason to continue.

June 9, 2009 at 9:48 pm
(14) dewan says:

my guess is #1 joe is a pot head too. Thanks for the advice buddy

June 18, 2009 at 1:53 pm
(15) annie says:

I am curious if blazeit has more going on in life than pot smoking. Are you also a productive member of society? Good grades? Involved in sports? Hobbies? etc. Heading in the right direction in life?
My experience is that pot smoking on a social level does not seem to be that harmful but that once you become a daily smoker the stigma against it tends to make people stay to themselves, becoming more isolated and less interested in other fulfilling parts of life.

June 21, 2009 at 2:17 am
(16) Henry Winkler says:

Well annie, what makes you so sure that playing sports and getting good grades takes you “in the right direction”? How do you know what the right direction for this kid is? You don’t. Grades mean nothing, the school system just forces these poor kids into thinking that schooling and a “career” as a mindless drone at a desk is the only way to be happy in life. Marijuana makes some people happy, for others it could be anything else. It’s just that some people can’t handle it that it gets such a bad name, it is very easy to lead what you would call a normal life while smoking pot,

June 22, 2009 at 12:38 am
(17) Emma says:

Both underage drinking and smoking pot is illegal. Undebatable. Smoking pot does not allow you to be a contributing member of society. Schooling is extremely important. If the American youth is uneducated, say goodbye to a productive future.

July 1, 2009 at 2:25 pm
(18) Anon says:

Emma you’re an idiot. I’ve been to two rehabs in the past 6 months, and I know for a fact that it’s not pot that doesn’t allow you to be a contributing member of society. When other substance become involved (outside of very moderate use) it then becomes impossible to be a functioning member of society. If you think pot makes it impossible, or even challenging for people to function you are sadly mistaken.

July 14, 2009 at 8:45 pm
(19) Balthazar says:

Emma, marijuana use forsure does not affect one’s contributions to society. The absolute biggest smoker I know is a member of the student council at her school, and participates in town recycling campaigns. Definitely a contribution.
What the majority of adults need to realize is that society has shoved you all into a uniform mindset – one that suggests the idea that education=money=success=the only happiness. All men are different, and I know that the 2 career paths I wish to go down in my life have absolutely nothing to do with school and education. The ideal society would be one of individualism, where society has no guidelines and does not kill people’s souls, where community acceptance is not an issue – that is the society I myself strive to create everyday, in vain.
So Katz, in answer to your question, inform your spawn of the short-term and long-term effects, and let him make his own decision; it is his life, and do not let society let him believe smoking is wrong without backup or proof.

July 14, 2009 at 10:48 pm
(20) Allison says:

My son is 15 and I am pretty sure he is smoking quite a bit and maybe even dealing. I am heartbroken but unsure what to do. I don’t want to alienate him further – he already thinks all I care about are his grades. Although I try to tell him that grades are just a vehicle to have future opportunities, he’s not buying it. I appreciate the comments above about focusing on the here and now and being more open to happiness via other routes. Any ideas are welcome!

July 21, 2009 at 5:53 pm
(21) anony says:

I am 17 years old and turning 18 in a few days I have been smoking weed for about a year and a half. Everday for about a year now. Marijuana and alcohol are both alright in moderation, and in my opinion marijuana should be legalized for the benefit of the country. Smoking weed everyday(though I don’t condone it) in no way inhibits your ability to function in society. I work a full time job, provide for myself, pay my bills and even pick up litter in the public parks I smoke weed at! Smoking weed everyday has very bad effects on the mind though. I am currently on a break from smoking weed because of this. It has caused me to become incredibly detached from the real world and makes me feel as if I am dreaming my life 24/7 even when I’m not stoned. My best friend got me into smoking weed and now he is far away in rehab for addiction to painkillers and abuse of other drugs(heroin, oxycontin). That is where the real issue is. Smoking weed habitually can be a gateway for other drugs, I know this first hand because I don’t feel much from smoking weed and it has often led me to think about trying other things. If my friend hadn’t been sent to rehab I probably would have tried heroin by now. Thus, the reason I’m taking a “break” from pot.

My advice for the parent of the child who’s best friend is smoking is what many others have said before. Educate them about the dangers and the mental side effects that can arise from smoking weed. Telling your child NOT to smoke pot will make him do it more(speaking from experience). You need to let your child make the decision for themselves. Although I still function, smoking pot was probably the WORST decision I have ever made, it took my best friend from me and alienated me from my parents while they were only trying to help me out of concern. If it helps you may want to share my story with your child so they can see what a fellow teenagers perspective on smoking pot is.
I wish you the best of luck in helping your child make the right decisions!

September 8, 2010 at 12:36 am
(22) debbiland says:

Anony–your answer is very similar to my son’s when I asked about his smoking pot. Very astute of you to say that smoking week everyday led you become detached and to think about trying other things. Very true, from my own experiences as well as my son’s. Unfortunately, this behavior seems to be the root cause of addiction because one wants to escape reality thru the use of drugs, don’t you think?

I talked to my son and told him I understand but that he needs to make that decision to quit and that we’d be there for him if he needed help. But he needed to keep in mind the consequences of his actions; e.g., if he continues to smoke pot, then we can’t allow him to drive the car.

Thank you for your post and wishing you the best of luck, Anony!

January 28, 2011 at 1:46 pm
(23) andy says:

hey i just gota say im 18 i have my medical marijuana card in california and smoking weed is not the drug you all crack it up to be i smoke often but my use goes through a natural cycle of wet and dry seasons if you will, and when deciding what to do with your kid you need to know weed is not a gateway drug its just the easiest to get these days for teenagers and those individuals who move into more dangerous drugs with addictive qualitys are going to anyways wether they start with alcohol or weed or heroine weed just catches the rap because of the availability and parents belive they see a concrete connection between the drug use. basically know your child and make your decision accordingly also if you were wondering im going to college while working there at the same time working to become a fire paramedic if you were thinking of calling me a leech on society say it to my face when i save you from a burning building and bring you back from the brink of death at which point i will get off shift for a few days go home and lite up a joint

July 25, 2009 at 5:33 pm
(24) Good Kid's Mom says:

I recently learned that my 15 yr old son was smoking pot once in awhile with friends. A couple of his friends have a reputation with pot. When my son asked if they could come over I said not tonight. They came over after I went to bed; the downstairs was thick with pot smoke. All was denied of course. I told one of the boy’s fathers (a friend and I knew he had been testing his son) that he should test him because I believed they had been smoking pot at my house. Now the friends think my son ratted them out – even though he still insists nothing happened… I have talked with my son about smoking pot, how it is illegal and that his brain is still developing; I said I don’t want him to smoke but he might still make that choice – I said he could not smoke in my house. Now I am the bad guy! How should I have handled this?

July 31, 2009 at 4:49 am
(25) Fide says:

Americans are funny:D Now first of all, please remember the facts, which are. Children ARE gonna experiment, at least 90% of them, deal with it. It’s not a bad thing perse, and you probably did the same when you were younger. Also facts, drinking alchohol it much much worse then smoking pot. Most of you people are deluded to think that it must be worse because it is illegal in the states. America should realise that trying to hold everybody back isn’t getting them anywhere. The war on drugs is the biggest joke in history. Your country has one of the highest rate of drugs users in the world. While down here in the netherlands, where most things are legalised, it’s actually the other way around. Feel free to not believe me, the numbers don’t lie though…

Now that one mother screaming that her son had to go to rehab because a ‘friend’ laced the pot with crack. That’s not the fault of pot. It’s that so-called friend that should be arrested and jailed.

Another thing, rehab for pot? Counseling for pot? What the hell is wrong with you people?? Let them try it out, preferably in your home while you are at home (not in the same room, unless yer really want to see what it is like and join your kid with the smoking(yeah sounds stupid huh? well it’s not, how can you speak about something you have never experienced, and it’s not gonna get you killed or hooked up(just don’t try this with crack:P)), it’s better then them doing it on the streets. Make the situation so that your children can actually talk to you about it and then they will. But most people just punish kids when they even mention it. But my god, you don’t need some therapist telling you what is best for you and your kid, you have a mind of your own, use it.

Oh and for the person above me, if you tolled anybody else’s parents about it, you did in fact rat your son and friends out, and your son is the one that will take the heat for it, you coudn’t realise that before you did it? You should have started talking about them what they like so much about it, let them work through that phase in their life. I’m not saying you should make it easy on them and let them smoke every time they want too. I can only tell you that prohibiting it will only make it worse. Just show them the upsides and downsides. And still, they are children, it’s not like they will listen right away, it’s in their nature to go against you. Just keep in mind that in 95% of the cases it’s just a phase that will blow over.

And testing your kid? Yeah i’m sure they will trust you again, let alone tell you something bad they might have done. Great way of ruining any trustworthy relationship with your children….

Just for the record, i’m 29 and not some pro-pot teenager.

August 7, 2009 at 8:37 pm
(26) Becca says:

I’m currently entering my senior year of high school, and I don’t smoke pot, but I have many friends that do. For the most part, it’s not habitual smoking- just something they do to be social. I don’t think that the smoking itself is the issue, but rather what my friends do while they’re high. If they’re at one person’s house and sleeping over, it’s not a problem, but so many kids think its ok to drive high or they end up doing things they wouldn’t do if they were sober. Parents should try setting limits if just “saying no” to their kids won’t work.

I’m a teen intern for a blog called radicalparenting.com, and there is a great article on FAQ’s about teen smoking http://www.radicalparenting.com/2008/12/18/faq-teen-pot-culture-what-worried-parents-should-know/

August 21, 2009 at 9:49 am
(27) AvidSmoker says:

I would heartily suggest informing your son about marijuana and marijuana laws. The fact is simply that it is a controlled substance. Another thing you have to do is try to identify if your son has a personality that is compatible with marijuana useage. If he is already not very motivated and just sits around all day, pot is probably just going to encourage those habits. I have been smoking marijuana everyday for about three years just to see if it really has any negative effects. So far, so good. I’m 21, I do not drink, going to my junior year in college with a 3.61 GPA, and in summers I work anywhere from 70 to 100 hours a week and pot has never interfered. If anything I think it made me more active. I hike, run, play paintball, snowboard, and motorcycle more frequently now just because it is enhanced by marijuana.

August 23, 2009 at 8:25 pm
(28) zellia says:

this debate has been ongoing for decades and never seems to be resolved.as a teenager i smoked a certain amount of dope,but what is available today is stronger ie skunk.it is also available to kids far younger,when they are more vulnerable.i have 2 teenage sons,both smoke dope and i am finding it hard to come to terms with.it demotivates them both and makes them very insular and self-absorbed.they are both fit,healthy,inteligent people who seem to be wasting their lives on dope.they both failed exams because of it,which i acknowledge is not the only consideration,but it greives me to see my lovely boys lying dumbly in bed when there is so much great stuff to do and see.yes,it is their choise but for them to do this,someone else must pay,ie their parents or society,they still eat,use electric etc,while they are enjoying their high.being a mum is hard enough,watching ones child reduce themselves to an inert idiot is heartbreaking.i chose the option of allowing it at home over them hanging out in a park,but it gives the wrong message.i have now banned it all together but it will do no good.at some point they will have to take responsibility for their actions,tough love says do you want to eat today or smoke.

September 4, 2009 at 2:02 pm
(29) 19 years old says:

Take it from me, I’ve been smoking marijuana for 3 years straight it went from $25 every couple days to $75 every 4 days to $150 every week to $260 a fortnight and i can far far far far surpass the $260 a fortnight mark, there was even a time when it was $260 a week – thats 28 grams in one week. I read some of these comments here of teenagers like me (probably just starting out not knowing the full effects) saying ‘as soon as you parents give up its better for all of us’ bla bla bla, this is absolutely absurd – I would never ever ever want to hurt my family with my addiction and most of all my Mother. I can see my addiction is destroying my family it is tearing them apart, I cant afford this, it is a nightmare. It started out innocent fun and has become like a heroin addiction I have lost all my friends due to paranoia I guess, I have fought with my family members physically, I have become severely depressed I am only a young boy but feel like life is just not worth living for. I have been off the stuff for 1 week now and God I hope I last for the sake of my family and for my sanity. If I can say one thing to the parents in here worried about their children it is please never give up, be open with your child and don’t make them hide it from you, thats when things go beyond you’re control – you have to tackle this head on, the entire youth is turning to drugs and alcohol from 12 years up, you have to be kind to you’re child and show them sympathy and encouragement to quit. I think I am aware of what I am because of the kindness my family has shown me, it is not a question of weather it’s illegal or not – it is definately going to happen regardless if you drag them down to the cop shop for an ‘embarrassing’ drug test you have to let you’re children know that you support them and that means in a way condoning it, i know it sounds bad especially from me.. but when I saw that my parents we’re fully supportive of me is basically when I knew how far this had really gone. As I said before I would never ever want to hurt my family members and that is really all that is keeping me from smoking my bag of temporary ‘happiness’. I wish all the best to the parents I can only imagine how hard it is for you to watch you’re children waste away mentally and physically.

Keep on keeping on, best of luck.

September 13, 2009 at 2:39 am
(30) Matt says:

First, I would like to say I do not encourage anyone to smoke marijuana. Now, taking your child to the police station may sound like a good idea, they could get a police record that wont go away. This WILL prevent them from getting into the colleges they want to go to, pot will not. To be honest marijuana is not a bad substance and most the things people think they know about it are old lies made up by the government and anti-drug organizations. What I’m trying to say is if you catch you’re kid smoking pot, it’s not the end of the world

October 8, 2009 at 9:41 am
(31) Arcadian says:

Of Course the people who says Marijuana is not bad, smoked it themselves, or tried it in the pass. People doesnt understand, that SMOKING no matter what it is, is bad for you. Lots pf pot-head here, funny how they try to make POT a good thing. Clears my glaucoma “sure it does” 30 years down the line, you’ll be in the hospital wondering whats wrong with you. Sad, So SAD!
Good luck you potheads. Ill be laughing when you bitch about how medicare, isnt going to help you.

October 16, 2009 at 9:21 pm
(32) Jana says:

The area of the brain that is responsible for reasoning, making sound judgments, & understanding consequences of behavior & actions & decision-making, the Prefrontal Cortex, is still in the stages of development during the teen years, and up to the early 20′s, and possibly to mid 20′s. The active ingredient in marijuana, THC, greatly affects this part of the brain, especially in the teen years, as well as other parts, including memory. Most drugs, including marijuana, also wreak havoc on the Limbic System of the brain, the reward system. When something is done that creates pleasure, the brain will release Dopamine, which makes you feel really good. The end result is possible addiction.

The other end result of smoking pot regularly in the teen years is that as they grow into adulthood, they become a dummed down, stupid adult (such as my dumbell siblings – read below) with limited social skills, unable to arrive at sound decisions, poor judgment, limited work skills/education and therefore limited friends and earning capacity. They’re always “behind” in some way.

My younger sister and brother both smoked pot on a regular (almost everyday) basis all throughout their teens to their mid 20′s. I never once smoked pot or used drugs until I graduated college and after receiving 2 degrees, both with high honors, at the age of 24. I lit up for the first time when I was 25. And it wasn’t very often. I have talked to other people in/around my age group and they said the pot smokers who started smoking later and, only on occasion, not every day or week, are all very successful and the people who smoked a lot when they were young, are at a huge disadvantage. Their emotional intelligence is low – barely average. The damage is not reversible.

I am now 56 years old and continue to smoke pot, but still not on a regular basis, only occasionally, once in awhile. I am very successful, have 2 very successful daughters on their own, a great marriage and although I’ve battled (and beat) breast cancer twice, I have a pretty good life.

My younger brother (now 46) and younger sister (now 47) have no friends, screw everything up, bounce from job to job, multiple divorces, no real education to speak of, flat broke more often than not, and, last but not least, miserable. They do not even get along well with each other, and rarely see each other. It’s impossible for me to have a relationship or even a conversation with them or reason with them b/c their attitude, behavior, and responses are about the same as when they were both in their late teens, and, on a good day, their 20′s.

It’s so sad as everyday I feel the loss and hurt. I feel that I “lost” my younger siblings over 20 years ago. Many people do not realize that a healthy, fun relationship can’t happen with someone who is “brain damaged”. So, the healthy, fun relationship I yearn for, doesn’t exist. How many 56 year olds (like me) want to hang out with people who never matured a day beyond their early 20′s. I do visit them but keep it to a minimum and speak to them as if they were still teens b/c that’s all they can handle. Their outward appearance sure screams 40-something but when they open their mouth, it screams 20 something. And get this … neither of them smoke anymore. They both stopped smoking pot in their mid 20′s, but I guess by then the damage was already done. They brains never matured beyond that point. It saddens me when I look back at the family photo albums.

They can’t relate to adults. It’s really heartbreaking.

If you’re hellbent on smoking pot, even though it is still illegal, well … I rest my case against smoking too much, too soon … equals dumbell.

October 21, 2009 at 6:00 pm
(33) IMO says:

i am currently going to high school. i smoked pot just about every weekend with my friends sophomore year. i had a blast. although over the summer i had to quit because some of my friends parents found out and i was worried about them telling my dad. i have been clean for over 3 months and to be perfectly honest, its awful. i dont have near as much fun with my friends and drinking doesnt compare to weed. when i was smoking, i made much better grades because i wanted to be as cool as possible with my parents so they would let me go places and do things. and im not saying pot makes you smart, because it doesnt. the only negative affect i felt was the next day i would feel lazy for the first hour or so that i was awake, but nothin serious. i got closer with my friends, had a much better time doing things with my friends. it would also encourage me to spend alot of time with my parents so they i would build their trust… only to decieve it, every weekend. if they knew and were cool with me smoking, my life would be made. im not saying i would do it every day because nothing is good if you dont do it in moderation. but i would smoke on the weekends with my friends and have a blast like old times.

November 16, 2009 at 8:34 am
(34) k-mart says:

well i am a 17 year old and i smoke pot and drink but it hasn’t affected my life that much and i love doing it, it keeps out of trouble at school because if i get in trouble i would not be able too.

January 7, 2010 at 12:43 am
(35) Alex says:

Im a junior in high school, I smoked about everyday in the summer last year. I felt no negative effects and was easily able to quit cold-turkey once the school year started. also, my best friend is an avid pot smoker and he has had a 4.0 GPA throughout high school. ive never felt any addiction to marijuana. and seriously “Good Kids Mom”, telling your child’s friend’s parents is the worst thing you can do.

January 7, 2010 at 12:45 am
(36) nick d. says:

Recently my mom found my small bag of weed, bubbler, grinder and lighter, and didn’t even bring it up. I wanted to have an honest relationship with my parents so the night they found it after I got home from work I talked to my mom and confessed everything. I told her how I truly only do it on occasion, but she didn’t care, she didn’t listen to me and started talking about how I need to quit because I will get hooked and ruin my life. She told me that my uncle from chicago lives a loser life because he keeps justifying the use of pot, but he is one of my favorite adults in the world and I was insulted she would judge him and decide his life wasn’t good enough. After her talking about my uncle and all the negative things she thinks r true about it, some of which are, she informed me of my grounding and how I will quit because she won’t allow it. But in retrospect she is pushing me away because I keep telling her it a phase and I’m not self medicating, I just do it because its truly fun and social and I just wanted to be honest with her so I don’t have to lie and decieve her anymore. The next day I told her I won’t stand to hear her talk down about my uncle anymore and how she thinks that she is supporting me and knows all about marijuana is not going to do anygood. I am now printing off this entire blog because I believe this is the reality of it and I hope it will help her adjust to the idea of her son smoking weed. I’m 16, a junior in highschool, and smoke with friends everyonce in a while I don’t plan on smoking pot for the rest of my life, I don’t drink alcohol, not even on new years, and I have never used tobacco, weed is my buzz and this is my story. Even though this is 2 months late for anyone reading this tell your kids if they want to experiment to be safe and stay casual about it, don’t deal and don’t steal is what I say, just mind your own buisness and don’t let it become anything more than an occasional recreational activity. Weed doesn’t ruin lives people choose to do so that’s like people don’t kill guns do.

January 7, 2010 at 5:12 pm
(37) Matt says:

Personally, I wouldn’t mind as long as I found my child mature enough. I have not seen any side effects in my friends or even myself. Nevertheless, he lives in YOUR house. Tell him that if he wants to smoke, that he must wait until he moves out.

January 24, 2010 at 3:57 pm
(38) adam says:

I dont see a problem in smoking pot. Im 16, got all As and Bs at school except english (hence the spelling), got a hobby i do twice a week, am fit, have a social life with good friends (we dont sit on street corners terroising people) and i love life. only thing i am worried about is getting caught by the law, it would give me a record and potentually ruin my life. i choose to smoke pot because i dont like the feeling alcohol gives me and dont like what it does to other people. If you smoked pot in place of weed i dont see the downside! I believe if pot was legalised lots of problems would be solved, not to mention the fact of there being no really strong reasons its not legalised already!

January 26, 2010 at 8:49 pm
(39) brian says:

I am 17 years old and have been smoking weed since I was 12, daily since 14. I used to see it as harmless and well, it was a wonder drug for me. Or so i thought. It has not been until recently that I have started to look back and reflect on the past years of my wasted teenage-hood, that i realize this drug has my life in a complete strangle hold. Getting high every chance i get, im starting to feel like some looser junkee wasting my life away. I used to love playing sports and was a generally friendly guy but weed has isolated me from everything and everyone that doesn’t allow me to get stoned.. the only thing in my life i can say im somewhat proud of is my grades, but besides that my life is very unfufilling and revolves completely around my next doobie. The best advice i can offer is to try and make the long-term effects of using such drugs very apparent to him. A cool buzz is not worth every penny you make, every friend who doesn’t enjoy the same hobby, every waking minute of your life, and worst of all your future. Be honest and upfront, dont get mad or push them away.. best of luck.

-brian

February 4, 2010 at 3:12 am
(40) Jesse says:

Brian is a fictional person and a deceiver. We see you, you fear-mongering anonymous person. Come out and face us, I dare you.

February 6, 2010 at 5:13 pm
(41) Ben says:

Well it doesn’t really matter about the long term effects of marijuana. We could sit here all day and argue, the fact is its illegal so your children shouldn’t be doing it. When its legal that will be a different story. I can’t exactly talk as i am 14 and smoke marijuana once a week, but i also grow my own for personal use (eliminates the lacing factor) and only ingest it in pre dosed brownies on a saturday night after all my work is done. I also have a 3.9. Im not saying this is relevant, but for those who are talking about the horrors of marijuana, with a responsible user there is really no problem. And i am in no way addicted as i often don’t ingest marijuana on weekends. Its a personal choice that has made my life much better.

February 7, 2010 at 1:47 am
(42) Sam The Stoner says:

Hey, thought i might just respond to this with some of my first hand experience. First off i’m 15 years old and just finished my first semester of grade 10. I live in Ontario, Canada. The laws are sort of lacking here, getting caught (and i have) by an officer results in the following:

1) Your pipe is smashed
2) your weed is taken by the officer
3) The officer says “Next time go behind that fence, I wouldn’t care if people weren’t able too see you”

So the legality isn’t an issue here really, perhaps it is in other areas, i wouldn’t know. Besides that, alcohol is alot worse for you than weed. Weed is “mentally” addictive, but then again anything that one fins enjoyable can be mentally addicting. Video games or television or reading can be addicting from a habitual point of view. Its the kids who get into alcohol an cigarettes that you need to worry about. Those substances require frequent indulgence in order to function normally and are PHYSICALLY ADDICTIVE. But hey, everyone should pick their own crutch.

Lastly, I’d like to address the common stereotypes and the stigma placed upon stoners simply for holding the status as a stoner. You may think that we are all stupid and lazy with nothing going for us besides drugs, and that may be true for some of us. But the vast majority are normal people and kids, who tend to be very talented or intelligent. I am proud to say according to my semester one final marks i have a 91% average in academic classes (those are the hard ones in Canada). If you have initiative and potential before you start to toke up, you should stay relatively successful in most of your ventures. If you are lazy and stupid before you smoke pot, well you are gonna end up to be a stupid lazy stoner.

February 9, 2010 at 12:29 am
(43) nicole says:

I’m currently a sophomore and I smoke almost if not everyday. I’m not going to stop because my parents fight me on it. It lifts my depression and helps my anxiety – symptoms my prescribed medication does not improve.
My life is not based around smoking pot, smoking pot is just a part of my life. I get good grades in school and I have a job, I’d like to think I’m a contributing member of society. This is something I wouldn’t be able to easily achieve without smoking because my depression is not something I can handle without help.
As for the whole “mentally addicting thing” I had to go to rehab before for an addiction to cocaine and being addicted to a drug like coke is much worse than wanting to smoke pot.

Talk to your kid and let him know you don’t condone it, but dont smother him that is the worst thing you could do!

February 18, 2010 at 1:19 am
(44) aslan says:

Wow, this is some great information. I am 22 years old and was just recently diagnosed with suffering from bipolar disorder. For some it can be a very debilitating disorder. I started smoking pot regularly after my diagnoses and was shocked at how easy it was to get it. But I soon realized that I was still breaking the law because I didn’t have a legal medical marijuana license. So I got one, and now I do it legally maybe once a week. If you smoke, dont do it often and dont do it illegally. You might get away with it and you might not. Its just like speeding, the more often you do it, the more likely you are to get caught.

February 19, 2010 at 4:04 pm
(45) Taylor says:

I don’t think it’s a bad thing to smoke pot… At a young age, maybe. But I’d like to say something to everybody that says it kills brain cells and such. WebMD states that after years of controversy, it has been proven that it really doesn’t!

http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/news/20030701/heavy-marijuana-use-doesnt-damage-brain

:)

February 19, 2010 at 9:52 pm
(46) TubaLuv2010 says:

jus to say something before i finish this article comments

i am a type 1 diabetic teen (17) that has developing complications, neuropathy…as in damaged nerves in the end of fingers and toes, imagine ants crawling on the end of your fingers and toes nipping you constantly 24/7 non stop…even at night, the sheets feel like a red hot wire fence scrapping against your finger tips the whole night

But i still march in the marching band fitting in those fantastic white marching shoes and playing the biggest instrument we got, the TUBA…

I still go to regional competitions for robotic competition along with the gov team.

I have a 3.85 GPA with rising Bs

I also hold the british Grade 8 for Bflat clarinet

how do i do all these things with something as painful as neuropathy?

I use marijuana, ja Ganja
delta 9, tetrohedrolcannabiol

i never leave home without at least couple space cake or brownies, all bought from my local green store

please there are the one that need and there are the ones that abuse

btw I also drive, high
every sing day

February 28, 2010 at 6:22 pm
(47) Ldsknack says:

There are some real winners in the world. I don’t care who thinks I’m an ass or how it’s none of my business. when I learn a friend of my son is smoking pot I will bust his tail and tell his father as fast as I can. I had to find out on own that my son was smoking and later found out others knew. Not true friends. It’s wrong. Period! Does nothing to help reach potential and the drug cartels are getting rich and killing people over it’s sale. If you have to use to din enlightenment then you don’t have the capacity to begin. One more thing, do not come around here selling either. It will be a very bad day.

October 13, 2010 at 1:05 am
(48) Burn says:

Im 15 and i use to smoke pot, after the recent info i found about pot i highly regret stoping because i really didnt see a change in my personality, grades ect. I truly believe the only thing wrong with pot, is that it is illegal. Recent studies have in fact shown no major diffrences compared to pot smokers and people who dont smoke pot! It will become legal eventually and it will be just another recreational activity.

May 25, 2010 at 9:27 am
(49) tinslo says:

My son is on his way to 19. He grew up in a non drug background in a very safe and normal way.
He now smokes reguarly. But, it’s only herbs he likes to tell me. I first caught him when he was 17, and now he is very open about it. I struggle with the fact that if I push him too hard, he may go down a worst path. I won’t tell him to leave for that reason.
He has friends that smoke and they feed off each other.
They refuse to work because they believe in going back to the earth (which they don’t) and though are all respectful and polite, they really are killing their brains and losing valuable people in their lives. Mostly I think think they’re avoiding reality.
These are young men, who seem to truly believe that non smokers are uneducated in what really matters.
I see my always loving, smart, goodlooking and inquisitive son become a slack, google eyed stranger, losing out on having the irreplacable edge and enjoyment in life that you have when you are 18.
I so understand the virtue of smoking when you are ill or dying. I work with the terminally ill and elderly.
Weed does lead to other drugs for the impressionable. They head for self destruction unless they have family or others to help stop them. And that can be almost impossible.
My son has made me read so many articles. I already had.
It makes no difference. He is messing with his brain. No question.
If you have a child who is going down this path, you are fortunate if it leads to nothing. Maybe just a stage, a time in their life. For most, these days it leads to so much more.
I’m still working at what I can do or say, to encourage my much loved son to stop, and take a sharp breath of fresh air and get on the rocky road to life without a smoke or a bong.
It’s not so innocent anymore. Its a business. They start them young, lace it and lead them further up the path to destruction. Maybe a little dramatic for the suburban families, but not in the least exaggeration.
This is my outlook on this, but if anyone has been in the same situation, please give me some advice.

September 12, 2010 at 2:49 pm
(50) Totally can relate! says:

Your story sounds very, very similar to mine. I don’t know what to do…I’ve tried everything and at this time my son is still smoking pot and has “NO” intentions of stopping. He’s a great kid and I love him dearly; I feel like I’m failing him as a parent because he continues to smoke….

June 11, 2010 at 2:19 pm
(51) Just some guy says:

Pot isn’t the evil satanic drug everyone makes it out to be, i’m sure it could potentially have a negative effect on the developing brain’s on teens, no, it most likely does but it’s not the worst thing out there, infact anything as little as I dunno, say.. being dumped or cheated on can have a substantial effect on teens, sometimes even the more ‘well behaved’ will develop more anxiety issues then those who do smoke pot. I personally find that people have a tendency to blame marijuana for their own, and other peoples issues. Look at all these posts, people claiming that pot ‘ruined there siblings lives’. Is it not possible that maybe perhaps pot isn’t to blame and they’re just not as smart as you thought they were? Tonnes of people wind up at the age of 40 with no job, no friends, and nothing to live for. But hey, maybe every single one of them tried pot. Maybe that’s the secret! :O Never touch the drug and you’ll be a happy little vegemite with a well paying job that contributes to society. :) It could happen.
I’m turning 21 in a couple of months and I the only times I ever smoke is if one of my friends offers me free pot. How can you say no to something that’s free? Anywho, so that’s gotta be like, once every 4 or so months. xD
So there you have it, I don’t smoke pot much, didn’t in my teen years and I have severe anxiety issues and spent a majority of my teen years battling depression which in turn caused me to drop out of school, and make a complete failure of myself forcing me to work doing something I hate with people I don’t like. :) It pays well.
I’m gonna be honest I don’t even remember where I was going with this. I’m sure maybe I have some decent points in there, I just cbf going through and making sense of it all.

July 6, 2010 at 3:07 am
(52) Rob says:

After a long day at work I like nothing more than to come home, have a joint, relax and watch a movie. Nothing helps relieve the days stress better, and I have a wonderful sleep every night.

What I’m getting at is pot used responsibly is harmless, and from personal experiences it’s a great stress reliever.

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not condoning the use of pot as it IS illegal but before you go ranting at your children about the negative effects of pot and how it will mess up your mind and give you cancer, perhaps take a moment to find out why they’re using it. Talk with them and tell them your concerns.

August 21, 2010 at 1:09 am
(53) Angel says:

This happened. I trusted my son until I caught him red-handed. So I took away phone, computer, friends, freedom…he was stuck to my side his whole summer… We had positive results…better than expected…Thank you God! Now, the smoker friend wants to come back around. I say NO

September 6, 2010 at 10:05 pm
(54) alone says:

though i understand where all you “concerned parents” are coming from, i am 15 and ive been smoking marijuana everyday since i was 13…my moms never tried the drug so shes very distant and angry when she catches me doing it. us teenagers though, we rely on it sometimes, when youre on our case all day adn bugging us adn yelling at us, like when my mom just wont shut up, all i think about is how much i want to get high to get away from it all…so just realize, the less you bother us and try and get us to stop, the less we’ll probably do it. you have to put yourself if our shoes and think about it…being a teenager now is alot different then when you were one, we get high…it helps, deal with it. cause I, and many other teens will not stop smoking..no matter how much it hurts my mom, its MY thing and i do it for me

October 27, 2010 at 5:14 am
(55) No Worries says:

Hi, I’m a 20 year old junior in college. I smoke pot every day. I first smoked weed when I was 15. I was smart, I spaced it out every 6 months or so. Now that I’m older, and feel more mature I smoke every day. I don’t drink very often, just occasionally. When I compare myself, at the highest I could possibly be to my friends who are blackout drunk, well then there is no comparison. Most kids/young adults are smart enough, and mature enough to keep up every day life, a few don’t from what I’ve seen.

As for me, smoking every day, still participate in all sports, football, basketball, soccer, paintball, tennis, etc. I even play high sometimes and there is no difference really, just a different feeling. For people who “hate” on potheads for smoking so much because of what they read and hear, trying being a pothead for a month. See how it goes.. I’m 2 years going right now and life is good. I’ve been able to travel to the Philippines, to the UK, I am engaged, all the best friends that I could ask for, and I’m a very active person who does fairly decent in school (I don’t apply myself, although I am rather intelligent).

Weed has always fit my personality. I am a very relaxed laid back person who just likes to take it easy and have a good time, and get serious on something when I have to be serious and weed has never gotten in the way of that.

To the lady who’s worried about her son. It really just depends on who your son is. Depends on his personality, his style, his friends. If he seems, “emo” (I know it’s harsh, but sometimes you have to stereotype.) Or maybe he is a clean kid, decent/good grades, good friends. A very friendly personality, I wouldn’t worry to much. I think one of the best things a parent could do, is to permit some smoking AT HOME. Let your kid know what it’s like, see how they can cope with it. Tell him he can do it at home, but if his grades slip, or if you notice he becomes to get into trouble, then cut it off. Just give him the chance to make his own decision. I know many successful people who are daily smokers, even more than I. People who have their masters from college. It is not as bad as people think it is, and that fact needs to be understood. Also to the Mom, don’t be discouraged to take advice from a 20 year old, because I am younger with no kids, but because I am a pothead who knows what your son is going through.

To everyone who is against weed, re-analyze it. Compare it to other substances we accept into our bodies. I know many people who wake up to a nice addicting cup of coffee every morning, to get their “HIGH” from caffeine (easily comparable to THC, from weed). It is a different version of a high, but it is definitely a HIGH feeling.

October 31, 2010 at 1:23 pm
(56) Butter says:

I think the majority of these comments are made to try to help through experience but also to try to understand. So here’s mine. After parenting four teens, the youngest now 26. Every teen is an individual. Yes, many teens make to adults having had the occassional beer at a party or got high every so often, even every weekend. In all honesty, I did. There’s also the one that has to be high every day and every afternoon to get through their week. So do you wait and see if that is your teen or do you take a stand and stick with it. We had a teen like that, it was my step-son. He was coming home high on something every day. At the time we found it difficult to accuse anyone without the proof. Don’t wait. This young man didn’t speak to us for years after high school. Turned out he didn’t hate us he was going through his own private hell. He fought his way out and I couldn’t be prouder of what he has done with his life. We have talked about this openly and he is so honest about his experience. He says if we had come down on him the first few times we had found him high, if we had stopped him from being friends with the kid that we had bad feeling about, also the one that got him started… maybe he wouldn’t have gone the way he did. He said they laced their weed and took it to parties. I have to say he has an education now and is an amazing adult. So don’t give up on them but it doesn’t always turn out this way. We happen to agree with legalizing marijuana but regulating it. Treat it like alcohol, but that wouldn’t make it legal for your teen. I can’t say it enough, they are kids..your kid. Pay attention and please don’t worry about them hating you. We did and it almost cost us our kid.

November 4, 2010 at 8:41 pm
(57) Jesus says:

What do you think Jesus thinks about pot?

Could it be a tool of the evil one?

Think and pray about it……….

November 5, 2010 at 8:11 pm
(58) StormRoad says:

facts about weed
-it embraces your memory
-helps cancer
-helps make you feel happy
-100% cures drepression
-it can benifit the economy
-you can make fabric and paper out of it
-shirts medicin and more!
-it dose less damage to you then beer and other adult drinks if you want your kid either drinking weed or beer choose weed it will make your kid happy and you rember jesus christ right christains he had done pot back in hise time me must have been 15 weed back then was used as they called happy medicine they called it some gibbrish but yes even back all the way to 1800s they illagelized pot

November 5, 2010 at 8:14 pm
(59) stormroad says:

p.s there are no current deaths or desisses from smoke pot unless they died of old age or cancer desissies

November 6, 2010 at 12:02 am
(60) Alvin Herceg says:

Could hardly have arrived at a much better time. Very good post.

November 6, 2010 at 1:13 pm
(61) Mia Piecuch says:

Gotta love admn for this one. Appropriate timing with the current media.

November 11, 2010 at 7:39 am
(62) jpiddy says:

I just happened to stumble upon this little q and a and figured i would put my 2 cents in. You know what the sad thing about this whole ridiculous argument is. It is that it is near impossible to sort out what is true about the positive and negative effects of marijuana usage. It is either some stoners stretching the truth of its benefits and minimizing the harmful side effects or people who know what they have been told by the government and society that think it is evil and is turning Americans into a bunch of “lazy stoners”. Then there are the few people who actually have scientific evidence these are the people who you should listen to.

As a parent you should not condone smoking weed simply for the fact that it is illegal and your child could get arrested. But not condoning does not mean being your houses personal police force and busting your kid then giving him a harsh punishment. You should simply voice your opinions and say this is my house you do not bring anything illegal in here that means weed, prostitutes, heroin, hell if socks became illegal there would be none of them in my house. Also for the first time do not punish them you must warn first so they know what they are in for and what you think about it.

By the way I am 18 and I would say I smoke weed regularly. I am also pursuing a career in dance which has been going very well. I got great grades in school, I have been a part of various community service efforts. I am soon to begin working as a dancer to save up enough to get through college. I am motivated and active everyday I skateboard, snowboard, surf, dance 5 days a week, and play ultimate frisbee. People are pinpointing all of these problems on weed but in reality the problem is American culture Video Games, Fast Food, Bad Parenting, Being raised by t.v instead of parents, Large Food Portions, And the desire to be an average person instead of an upstanding one.

November 16, 2010 at 10:47 pm
(63) Christopher says:

The most successful parenting style has been proven to be an involved, but understanding parent. The best thing this parent can do is educate their kid on the effects of marijuana. This can be done ONLY after research has actually been conducted by the parent. Truly get your facts straight, don’t romanticize the drug by taking it away and let your kid decide for himself or herself.

November 17, 2010 at 1:36 pm
(64) Bobby says:

I am a senior in highschool and I smoke weed on the weekends with my inner circle, I also use to wrestle 13 years now but I never really had any intrest in it. (my dad is a coach so i been forced in it.)anyways I’ve been on punishment off and on ever since I quit wrestling but recently my old coach not my dad decided to tell him two weeks later after my dad got over all of it to tell him that I’ve been smoking weed and I failed my drug test. As of now I have maintained a GPA over 3.4 as a seenior with a full schedule I think i am doing well but i have been alienated by my parents for days now I am sent outside to do yard work until its dark then i go inside do my homework and go to sleep i am no longer able to hangout with my friends outside of school.

December 7, 2010 at 10:43 pm
(65) WorriedMomoutofstate says:

Found out yesterday talking to my son, who is a state away, and now lives with his dad, after poor choices by the judge and the attorneys. ‘they all knew my ex was a drug abuser, and a child abuser, but this tops anything i could every think. My son says his father and him have been smoking pot since the 9th grade, he was introduced to it, as a way to calm his nerves, and his father said it was natural and not to worry about it. Well now three years later, my sons mind is destroyed, he is an emotional rollercoaster, and im sure he habitually uses, he told me he was in alot of emotional pain about the divorce and he wanted to live with me, but the judge disallowed it, cus I lived out of state and it was in the best interest of the chld to stay in his hometown. ( which is notorious for drug abuse, crack users, teen pregnancy and more) What Can ‘I do now, that i know his father is involved? Im planning on moving back to california because I need to take care of this, amongst other things with my other two children.

December 13, 2010 at 3:45 pm
(66) Sam says:

There is a time for everything. Its called college.

The sad thing is that if cannabis became legal, 50% of those caring mother would not be asking themselves what to do.

My bad spelling is French Canadian Related.

December 15, 2010 at 1:27 pm
(67) Dennis says:

hey all my mom suggested me to go to these sites. im 16 now and im smoking weed. i let a good friend buy it for me so i aint getting further into drugs, beacause u know in my country (Holland) its legall to smoke pot when your 18 years old, so its not breaking the law. and as a teenager u want this bad if you started it. every opinion from your parents you’ll disagree.

December 19, 2010 at 11:06 am
(68) hiltrishwes says:

People smoke pot because they have parents that do, friends that do or they are mad at their parents, seek it out and get hooked.
They try it, they like it, they do it, they keep doing it. It makes them forget their troubles.
But trouble is reality. Ducking your troubles, hiding from them, is being a coward and you know it. Some people will be able to quit more easily than others, but some people who are truly sad and really addicted, won’t be able to stop.
So, if ducking your troubles is cowardly, and if pot is illegal, then what are you supposed to do about your troubles? Does anyone even care about you? Does anyone love you? YES. Jesus Christ does! And He died to forgive you of your sins.
God’s wrath is coming, pot will not protect you from it, neither will money, prestige, sex, alcohol, work or success.
The reason you are sad, is because you need God and you don’t have him…YET.
Confess your sins to Jesus who died for you, He promises to take away the guilt of you sins and the guilt of your addictions…and now live for HIM (not yourself). John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him, should not perish, but have everlasing life.
I’m pretty sure that this comment of mine will prob be dissed by someone. But nevertheless it is the truth. Open a Bible and read it (start with John, in the new testament) there is hope for you dear one. Jesus can hear you, talk to Him right now. Get a Bible, read the book of John. God loves you and He made you for a reason, your life is not a waste. Jesus loves you. PEACE.

December 21, 2010 at 5:59 pm
(69) Relax says:

Every one just needs to relax. I am a 16 year old girl and have been smoking pot since age 11. I have straight A’s and I participate in varsity lacrosse, soccer, and basketball. I smoke almost every day and it has never affected me negatively. I didn’t get involved with pot from hanging out with the wrong crowd, I was just curious and I tried it and found out I enjoyed it. I don’t hang out with just a certain type of people I am friends with almost every type of person. My parents don’t know I smoke because they don’t understand. If your a parent of a child who smokes and you don’t approve of it, let then know, but don’t ban it, just tell them don’t drive on it and to be careful. Also to the mother who said her child ended up in rehab because her sons pot was laced and he didn’t know that’s bull, you can always tell. Everyone just needs to relax about this if you have any questions watch the movie super high me. One more thing if I was a parent I would be more worried about my child drinking or smoking tobacco which unlike pot can kill you..

January 18, 2011 at 8:22 pm
(70) andrij says:

@hiltrishwes
The same can be said the other way around.
People belive in the power of Jesus Christ because they have parents that do, friends that do or they are mad at their parents, seek it out and get saved.
They try it, they like it, they do it, they keep doing it. It makes them forget their troubles.
But trouble is reality. Ducking your troubles, hiding from them, is being a coward and you know it. Some people will be able to quit more easily than others, but some people who are truly sad and really addicted, won’t be able to stop.
Simply asking your troubles away will never work. You need to be proactive and do something about it. Yes, some people smoke pot because of depression, if not pot, it would be a slew of other chemicals/substances. But some just smoke because they enjoy it. Just as we should be tolerant of religion, we should be tolerant of people’s choices with what they put in their body. Just don’t advertise it the way they used to advertise alcohol and cigarettes in America’s past. Just keep it private.

January 19, 2011 at 9:32 am
(71) Andi says:

Smoking pot and underage drinking is illegal. By condoning it, you are teaching your child that rules do not apply to them. Is that really a message you want to convey?

Secondly, my 18 year old recently started hanging out with the “dopeheads” at school. We argued about his deteriorating grades, lack of enthusiasm for anything in life, staying out until all hours of the night and quitting his job to do nothing. He moved out and is now living with his dad. My son is now failing THREE of his core classes his senior year and drinking and getting high every weekend. This has put his army deployment in June in jeopardy because no diploma means no army. You people that are saying that it is alright really need to get a clue. There are detrimental side effects of recreational drug use of ANY sort.

And, again, I reiterate, by condoning illegal behavior, you are teaching your children to have no regard for the law.

January 23, 2011 at 7:55 pm
(72) Marilyn says:

i have a 17 yr old son. Two days ago i called into schools because he got caught with 3 lighters and wrappers for marijuana. he claims they were his friends and had to show up the next day with a parent (me). the principal commended him on he was being mature enough to bring his parent. He asked him if he plans to go to college and he said yes and as a matter of fact i just received an acceptance letter from a college. i thought he was seeing a light. Not!!! the next day i get another call from school where he got caught with 5 bags of marijuana and the school called the police now we have a court date. i am very scared for him. i said hes going to the military asap

January 25, 2011 at 9:39 pm
(73) lynn says:

I am 53. I have seen it all. I have 5 precious children. I have a precious family of six siblings. I am called the child thief because my husband and I have adopted three of my siblings children/relatives. All started with innocent and “fun” use of marijuana and parents who turned a blind eye – truly opening the “gate”.

I drink several glasses of wine every nite. Have been a legal secretary for over 30 years. No DUI or DWI, and if I want a drink out – I make sure a significant other is driving.

Marijuana dulls senses and over time dulls life. I know for a fact because I am a flawed human and have myself been one of those “blind” people who have let loved ones do their “thing”.

Weed is stupid and illegal. And long term damages desire, hope, and one’s future. I don’t care how much someone tries to talk a person into believing weed is safer than alcohol – it is all stupid and I do not condone the abuse of alcohol – as my brother could die any day from alcohol abuse.

But, no one under the age of 18 should have a parent who thinks “it’s okay”. And anyone with a kid over the age of 18 who is smoking pot everyday should step out and be honest. No matter the quality – that person’s desire to live is being compromised. I have seen a lot of sorry drunks and very close and personal situations – but if u think u r going to convince society weed is ok – find a statistical map of who is banning what and why and when.

I just want us to give innocence a chance and we need to be grown up and a responsible people. Would u want ur child to have sex every morning before school. What message are u sending if you say smoking weed daily or sometimes is ok. An adolescent cannot make the best choice – so it is our job to protect and guide them. It is kind of like faith/religion. Raise them up in the way they should go

February 8, 2011 at 9:04 pm
(74) Michael says:

I am a teen age high schooler and I smoke pot often. I have straight A’s and smoke 3 to 4 times a week. Marijuana has no negative affects on my thinking or, obviously, grades. Although I am not recommending marijuana to any of your children, it makes me think in different ways and approach problems in a calmer fashion. I do homework high all the time, in fact whenever I write any sort of English paper, I am stoned. I use it as a tool for learning and problem solving, as well as for fun. Marijuana should be legal, the only reason it isn’t is because of our corrupt government. There is a conflict in interests among politicians, specifically law makers, and the lumber industry. I know what you’re thinking, what does that have to do with any thing? Well, hemp is one of the most versatile and fantastic creations of nature. It grows faster, stronger, and easier than trees. For this reason law makers who have ties to the lumber industry have made marijuana illegal, as an excuse to make hemp illegal. The constitution of the United States of America was written on hemp paper. Thomas Jefferson, Andrew Jackson, Benjamin Franklin and many others of the greatest thinkers of all time smoked cannabis in their day. The only tests done on monkeys that “proved” marijuana causes brain cell deterioration used hundreds of grams of marijuana ingested by monkeys in a five minute period. They suffocated the monkeys by only allowing them to breathe in smoke for that period of time. As seen with any suffocation, the first cells to die are the brain cells. There is no conclusive evidence of any kind that proves marijuana makes one “dumber” or kills brain cells. Although many may not like it, marijuana is a perfectly safe drug. My dad has taught me from a young age to never mess around with hard drugs, and I won’t.

February 8, 2011 at 9:05 pm
(75) Michael says:

(Ran out of room)
The worst thing I will ever do drug wise is possibly mushrooms, once, and I admit those are probably bad for you. But with marijuana, it is a fun, safe alternative to hard drugs. It is ridiculous that our government can blind people to such an extent that they follow like sheep. As for your child, it’s your call. I don’t do hard drugs and never will because I have been pushed away from them and left to explore the wonders of a natural, safe alternative. Also, no my father does not smoke pot, he used to back in the seventies but left it behind when him and my mom had their first child.
Take off your blind folds and legalize it!
By the way, I wrote all of the stoned while doing math homework and being on Facebook in less than 15 minutes.

February 26, 2011 at 2:03 pm
(76) Debbie says:

I have read all of the comments and have found them very helpful. I appreciate the ones from the using teens to the parents who have dealt with this. My husband and I are getting ready to have a talk with our just turned 15 year old. I believe he is in the ‘just getting started experimental stage’. He is an honour roll student and athlete but suffers from anxiety/depression and self-esteem issues. I am an adult who also at 14 experimented with all kinds of drugs/alchol and I know how fun it is. But i can look back and see the very scary situations i put myself in but didnt even realize it at the time. Wanting to not disappoint my parents and their love was what had me stop finally by 21. My husband and I are both sucessful and i see the friends who continued on the smoking pot road and they are all in the lower to middle income bracket. The ones who waited till college years, all continued to succeed. I just read a study in a mental health article that proves that the later a teen waits, the better. There are many things in life that ‘feel good’ when doing it, but that doesnt make it right. The criminal element is what scares me. The head dealer in my town was a Hells Angel, who sold to a friend, who sold to a friend , who sold to a teen, who sold to his friends. We dont want our kids associating with these kinds of people. At first we were going to take the ‘Let’s talk and educate approach but not accuse’ Now I think we are going to take the “We know what you’re doing and you’re not allowed..period’ Which will result in loss of phone, computer, ipod, money, ski trips ect. if it continues. We have told him, yes it is fun, yes we know you will be curious and want to try it, but like everything else, you need to wait until you are mature enough to handle it. If i took the easy approach and he became an addict, i would never forgive myself. I work with Youth Services and they agree. Be frank and open about, but never give permission, ever.

March 6, 2011 at 9:42 pm
(77) iSmoke says:

Hi,
im 14 and smoke pot about 5 times a month. Pot has not affected me in any ways and im tired of people saying how bad it is… If it is so bad why is it legal in some states!I bet half the people who get medical marijuana dont even have a medical issue. Pot isn’t as bad as people say.Since i started smoking pot my grades havent dropped,havent quit sports teams, or havent lost any motivation.

March 13, 2011 at 8:55 am
(78) Debbie says:

iSmoke – Perhaps if you did not smoke pot your command of punctuation and grammar would be stronger. Think about it.

I am currently going through this with my 13 year old nephew. He took his first blunt from his father’s stash. Nice, right? It is startling to read some of the comments on this forum. For many kids, smoking pot is a way to mask underlying psychological issues that must be addressed. Your job as a parent is to parent your child. That means being unpopular from time-to-time and making tough decisions FOR them. They don’t get to choose what they will and will not do. How in the world can some of you advocate something for a young kid that will set the tone for the rest of their life? You are living a fool’s dream if think that pot smoking has no negative impact on a kid. My nephew is gaining weight (which has caused kids to make fun of him — another issue), stop playing soccer, falling asleep in class, become agitated very easily, going from an excellent student to a marginal student at best. Advocate for decriminalization if you wish. Don’t advocate for our kids to smoke it any more than you would advocate for them to get drunk. And to the person that stated that in some places in U.S. smoking pot is legal, show the proof. I know of no state in this country where anything other than medical marijuna is legal. In fact, it’s still illegal in MOST countries around the world.

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