A forum member seeks advice: "I have a 21 year old son that is dating a 21 year old girl, she has a 5 year old daughter she has raised herself. She was once in a abusive relationship her parents are separate and the girlfriend is living on her own with the daughter. Me and my husband told my son we do not approve of the relationship because there is a lot of baggage and he is not only in a relationship with her but her daughter He is just finishing college we are concerned he does not finish college and moves in with her any advise I think we should back off because he knows how we feel about the relationship, but right know we do not want to include her in any family things."
Smudgeid's thoughts: "I think you should treat her the same way you would treat any 21 year old supporting herself that your son might be dating. With respect and courtesy.
Be impressed - she's been raising a child for 5 years and isn't relying on her parents to do it. She's escaped one abusive relationship - had the strength to leave even though it may have meant raising her child on her own.
I would say that your son and his girlfriend need to be a little cautious about the 5 year old. The child doesn't deserve to have people moving in and out of her life. Your son should avoid spending too much time with her until the adults have decided that there really is going to be a long enough relationship to involve the child."
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