Denise's thoughts: Sorry you are going through this, and I don't want to sound trite, but you seem to be doing all you can. She needs the counseling - it is good that you recognized that. At this point you'll need to use all the patience you can muster to allow what you are doing time to work.
One thing you can try to do during that time is to strengthen your relationship with her. Be sure to tell her - make it very clear - that you are there for her. You are both on the same side. Maybe start some conversations about good things that are in her future. Visit a college or two? Her problems are in the here and now. Maybe by focusing on how things can be better for her future, it will help make things better now. Setting goals often helps people focus on obtaining them.
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