DO NOT allow them to go alone. At this age they do not need to have the conventional 'date'. Going out with their boyfriend/girlfriend with a group of friends is much more appropriate.
DO allow them to invite their boyfriend/girlfriend over to your home. This is a great 'set the stage' tip for later, when they are dating seriously. You will find if you make this a habit, you will be introduced to future 'friends' without having to ask.
DO NOT allow any inappropriate touching. This is a gimme. But I want to point out that this age in notorious for 'wrestling'. Pre-teens are still children at heart and they will play games with the opposite sex that are no longer appropriate. Point these times out as they come along, without getting angry.
DO give them the "talk" about sex. They need to know how their body is changing, and exactly what happens in the physical act of sex. They need to hear this from you, do not let them have only what their friends say to go on. This is the perfect time to tell them. They are seeing the physical signs, and they still look up to you and your opinions. Make sure the talk is not all straight facts. Put in your opinion on love and relationships.
DO NOT give them permission to do so. Just because you are letting them in on the 'BIG SECRET' does not in anyway mean you feel they are ready to engage in that type of relationship. My advice here, STRESS THIS POINT, STRESS THIS POINT, STRESS THIS POINT!!!!!!!
DO enjoy this time. Your child is growing up, and for all the awkwardness this issue can cause, it will be full of rewarding experiences. So, have a good cry moms, and give your teen a hug for me!
